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Why Nice Guys Don’t Get Laid
First, that statement is simply untrue. Nice guys do and can get laid. The bigger challenge is that they do not get laid often or they get laid with the wrong type of woman. There is nothing wrong with being a nice guy and in fact, many women in today’s society are beginning to realize the value of dating and marrying a nice guy.
Typically, the nice guy is the one that takes a woman to dinner. He opens her car door, pulls out he chair, orders for her, pays, and then takes her home with nothing more than a hug or kiss on the cheek. There is nothing wrong with this date. The problem is more that our society things getting laid on the first, third, or even fifth date is mandatory when in fact, it is not.
Sure, nice guys could go out and get laid if they wanted to but the difference in that most of these men have been raised to respect women. These men are career oriented and focused on success in life. Many nice guys are highly confident, feeling that they do not have to go out and get laid every weekend. Instead, they would rather focus on dating the right type of woman, someone that would perhaps someday make a great wife.
For women, the problem is that they often view the nice guy as being weak. The truth is that he is strong, capable of handling all types of situations to include his own hormones. To women, they need to begin viewing nice guys for what they really are – nice men who have the utmost respect for women. Now, that is not to say “bad boys” do not respect women but most do not.
For the nice guy, having the stigma hanging around his head of not being able to get a girl must be frustrating. After all, he knows that he could have any number of women but he chooses to wait for the best. He wants someone who has more than the physical to offer. He wants a mate, a friend, and someone who is fun and interesting. The thing is that most women want the same but they have been programmed that getting laid is part of the dating game.
Sadly, too many women will sleep with anyone that comes along. They miss the greatest opportunity of being with a real man, someone nice, a man who is respectful not just to them but to himself. Keep in mind that many women see the nice guy more as a brother or protector, not someone who is physically harmful. Therefore, they love going out but never consider the “friendship” could go further.
As the nice guy, there is no reason to change the way you are. Keep being nice but you may need to change some of your flirtations to help women understand you want more than mere friendship. The key is to learn how to balance a safe personality with one that is exciting. This may take some time but it is possible.
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